A huge than you to Marga for her perspective.
For me, I have been in contact with many of the ladies in PM on and off. Mostly off. I feel us guys are just trying to figure out what we're supposed to do. Be serious? Play? Just relax and watch? The lines are always blurred in real life so here, where we rely only on the written word, it's like reading Sanskrit. Hell, there are just guys in similar forums cutting each other's throats. As a woman, you must imagine some of the things that go on. You have members running in packs sometimes. This is why some people get pissed at chat. I opened this discussion not inadvertently, as Harry1949 said, but purposely to get right to the core of some of the problems. I won't even talk about gays because I'll get thrown out on my ear, but I am a progressive and I am for everyone enjoying this. There needs to be better understanding or someone will sure as hell always be pissed off.